“If we don’t have any access to a deeper sense of self, it feels life-threatening when things are not working on the surface. When our identity falls apart, we will do anything to defend and fix it, because it’s all the self we know. With our roots planted in a more spacious self, our relationship to the ups and downs on the surface changes. We know the intrinsic impermanence of it all. We welcome the learning each experience provides us with. We can even feel grateful when things are really messed up on the surface.” Chameli Ardagh